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Boyhood Under Siege

Meg Meeker, M.D., mother and pediatrician said this about how boyhood is at risk today:

As parents, we know that boyhood has been changing-for the worse.  We remember when boys use to go trout fishing, sitting under a tree while daydreaming about the future, and now we fear that our boys are cutting themselves off from us with iPods, earbuds, and computer porn.  [As parents] we grimace as our boys are inundated with cheap, nasty dialogue and graphic images that reflect cheap, nasty values and an impoverished imagination….Outwardly we go about our work but inwardly we hold our breath.  Are our boys in trouble? If so, are they in more danger than past generations? Yes, and most definitely yes.  But unlike some psychologists, sociologists, and educators, I believe that the trouble hurting our boys stem from three major sources: lack of close relationships with men (particularly fathers), lack of religious education, and aggressive exposure to a toxic media that teaches boys that the keys to a great life are sex, sex, and a bit more sex – and a whole lot of money and fame…We must be willing to see that our boys need isn’t simply more prescriptions, more money, more activities.  What they need is us. You and me.  they need parents who are willing to take a good hard look at what their sons think and what they are doing.  They need fathers who will embrace their sons and watch them with the eyes of schooled hawks…The world has grown sad for our boys.  But the good news is: we can bring them back.  We can reinstitute some of the joy of boyhood for them, and we can ease their pressures (even the ones we think are beneficial for them, like earning good grades to get into an Ivy League school) by giving them the freedom to be boys: to simply enjoy pickup games of basketball in their neighborhoods, to find that save acreage of woods where they can hike and imagine, and to have that home library where classic adventure books await.                                                                                                                                                          To read more check out Meg Meeker’s book Boys Should Be Boys boys